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My son is graduating from elementary school in 2 weeks. He is very sad and worried about going to a new school without all of his friends. What can we do over the summer to make him feel more comfortable?
It's totally normal for kids to feel anxious about big transitions like moving to a new school. Here are some simple, supportive strategies you can use over the summer to help your son feel more confident and emotionally prepared for the change:
1. Normalize His Feelings
Let him know it’s okay to feel sad or nervous—those are signs that he’s someone who values friendships and routines. Reassure him that lots of other kids feel the same way.
- Consider saying things like: “It makes sense that you feel this way. A new school is a big change, and it’s okay to miss your friends.”
2. Visit the New School Together
If possible, take a walk or drive by the new school over the summer. Some schools offer summer orientation or a welcome video—ask if you can visit or take a peek inside.
3. Set Up Meetups with New Classmates
See if the school or PTA can connect you with other incoming students for casual summer playdates or park meetups. Even one friendly face on the first day makes a big difference.
- Tip: Check social media groups or community events for incoming families.
4. Build Independence Through Routines
Start practicing small things like organizing a backpack, choosing clothes for the day, or even making simple breakfasts. These help boost confidence in handling new responsibilities.
5. Reflect on Growth and Strengths
Have him write or draw about what he’s proud of from elementary school and what he’s looking forward to in middle school. This can help shift his focus toward growth and new opportunities.
6. Read or Watch Stories About Transitions
Sometimes it helps to see characters navigating the same worries.
- Books:
- “Middle School: The Worst Years of My Life” by James Patterson (funny and relatable)
- “New Kid” by Jerry Craft (graphic novel with real feelings about starting over)
Let him know that while things will be different, change can also bring new friends, favorite teachers, and exciting activities. Remind him you'll be there every step of the way.
