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My daughter, 19 years old, got a tattoo. I don’t have a problem with them, I’ve done of my own but there was a chance that she could get allergic to the paint, there still probably is, it’s been only a week. I told her before not to get one. She did it anyway. What do I do? I don’t know how to react now. I reacted really badly when she told me.
It is often difficult for parents to navigate the transition of their children from adolescents to young adulthood and to accept the decisions their children make independently, especially when those decisions do not align with the parents’ beliefs or guidance. Children will inevitably make decisions that go against the input of their parents, especially as they individuate from their parents. It sounds like you recognize that your initial response may not have been as positive as you wish, and it can be helpful to let your child know that you wish you had responded differently and even apologize if you feel that your response was extreme or harsh. It is often helpful to approach these situations with curiosity and openness rather than judgement and anger. That approach will ultimately feel better both for the parent and child, allow for healthier and more open communication, and create a more trusting and bonded relationship.
