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This is a question I posted on some parenting forums I recently joined. Would you have an opinion on this technique perhaps? Technique to get toddlers to stop screaming. The memory is a bit hazy as to the exact source, but a few years back I saw a video where a developmental professional was giving advice on how to stop young child from screaming, say demands during a tantrum. The idea was that the next time your child has a fit, look at them and hold your hand to your ear like you're trying to hear someone far away and say 'I can't hear you'. You have to speak softer so I can hear.' Although it sounds so counterintuitive, I remember, at least, the source was very experienced with degree credentials. Would any of you with children of this age want to give this one a whirl and see if your child responds to it? Sounds crazy enough to work, huh? Thanks for reporting back your thoughts
Although tantrums can be upsetting for both parents and young children, tantrums are an important part of the child’s development and an opportunity to strengthen the parent-child relationship. In the early years, parents are learning to understand their children’s cues and the unique meanings of their behaviors. Each family and each culture offers unique values and perspectives to child rearing, recognizing the parent’s point of view is important to consider. This understanding and the parent’s commitment to staying connected to their child when they are experiencing big feelings helps children grow up to be resilient and to be successful in the community where they are being raised. Setting and holding to age appropriate limits and offering choices while staying in charge your own feelings and the situation can help minimize or prevent tantrums. Responding to your child’s strong emotions by naming the feeling (disappointment, fear, anger, etc.) and helping to soothe them helps them develop new ways to cope.
In the technique mentioned above, the parent is staying calm and trying to connect with the child by saying I really want to listen to you. That might be the power behind the “technique”. When children feel safe and connected and parents are warm and kind and strong and in charge, they help their child build strong roots and grow and thrive.
Resources: Toddler Tantrums 101: Why They Happen and What You Can Do: https://www.zerotothree.org/resource/toddler-tantrums-101-why-they-happen-and-what-you-can-do/ ZERO TO THREE is the nation’s largest organization offering resources, training and policy solutions for infants and toddlers.
